Persistence/Expectations/Rules for going out for guys.

I am blessed with a pretty sweet named internship which will be not mentioned in blogs. However, I had been pretty dissappointed with my responsibilities solely being research on a computer for 32 hrs a week. I know this is silly because I am an INTERN by definition it means boring pointless work. I had just hoped I would learn a lot from this particular company and would get to experience other areas within the company. Well that wasn't happening and around week 4/5 I was getting anxious and was asking to do other things. After annoying my employeer a little too much about it, my wise father said I should probably back off and stop asking for a while, which I did.

So a week or two had passed and I decided to give my mind fully to the project have a good attitude and just try to be a good worker and not ask anymore. I found a story the other week and was following up with the character of the story. It was really exciting because it was the first time they had seemed like a story of mine might work.

This week, I finished talking with the character and submitted a  paragraph explaining the story and I think they are going to pass it along! Now that still doesn't mean it is going to be a story, but it's the furthest I've gotten with all but one other story. I just need to remember NOT to have expectations b/c when I do, I am always disappointed because as I was told, I am an optimistic person and always envision the best.

So besides that story, on Tuesday I got to go out on a shoot, something different and it was SOOO fun, plus I got to interview two kids for part of a story. I was so thankful that they let me do that because it means she trusts me and even though they didn't use the footage due to time constraints, it was still awesome and I felt lucky. THEN, on Thursday I found three other stories! One they had submitted (which was cool b/c it meant I was on the right track) and the other two they were going to call the people about...

So in short summary, persistence pays off. You may HATE what your doing, want more/less responsibility, but remember that God is your boss and he has assigned you this task. My devotional for yesterday (which oddly ties in now that I think about it) Matthew 25:23 "Well done my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling this small amount, so now I will give you more responsibilities". So remember not only your persistence in serving God, but in your work, once he sees you can be grateful for the little responsibilities and you finally stop complaining like a whining baby and just do the task, you will be rewarded. So that's my little Lesson for the week. My changed attitude and new energy to research paid off, or they are just trying to encourage me and the stories still stink, either way I feel better and I am finally okay with this experience.

AIGHT, now the serious talk. BOYS, THIS IS RULES FOR YOU WHEN GOING OUT.
Okay, so girls obviously are all different and how are you to know who wants to dance and who doesn't?? Well first, look at their ring finger, if they have a ring, AVOID, it either means they are ALREADY TAKEN, or have strategically placed a ring there to have others avoid them (ME).

If there is a large group of girls that seem to be all dancing together, never separating and ALWAYS around each other, it is usually a defense mechanism so they can have a spotter from all angels of the dance floor, in case you try to move in then a "save" can take place...

Explanation of a "SAVE"- you start walking towards us to dance, a friend pulls the girl away, either pushes your hands away or changes positions with her, or the group surrounds, or basically anything to avoid you. This is not to give you a challenge and does not mean she really wants to dance, it means GET AWAY CREEP! Don't bother her and her friends the rest of the night b/c they have already labeled you a creep if you persist to try and dance with them (in opposition to my early enthusiasm for persistence, this is considered stalking and not a good persistence)

I know you are now thinking to yourself, Well why are you out at a dancer club then??? And my response would be, because dancing is fun, dancing with you is not. I am a better dancer and I don't like to have to compromise to dance w/you. Plus I don't know you, and if I did, you would realize I am not the kind of girl that likes dancing with people. I like a little circle of free space all around me so I can do as I please, w/o you. So leave me alone! If you want to dance, we can ballroom dance because then I don't feel uncomfortable, or interpretive dance because you know a guy can be your friend if he can dance silly. face to face.

This is just out of experiences me and my friends have had. So know when you're being a creep and lay off and leave.

What you've been waiting for

"Boys, boys, boys, we like boys in cars" - Oh Lady Gaga.

On Sunday I went to the Met with three of my friends on the floor, we jokingly assigned three of us numbers so we can yell it out when we saw a guy who "fit our type" physically. However, for me, you can be the most attractive man on the planet, but it doesn't mean I'm going to like you. I am a picky individual (and I think others should be too!) when it comes to guys. Why settle for someone who treats you bad, has a bad personality, and has no goals for life. These are just a few things that are turn offs, but for me the hardest attributes to find come with the biggest non-negotiable. My faith. I've had people in the past question this and why it is so important, but lets examine this in all aspects of my life. I tithe 10% of my income, I'm sure if I married someone who didn't have a faith, they probably wouldn't like this idea when money gets tight. How about how you raise your children? Do they go to church with mom on Sunday or stay home with dad? Nope not dealing with that. Or how about when I need a strong Christian male in my life to keep me grounded, well that's kind of hard if you aren't. Ah, and another big dilemma for me living together before your married, Sorry if I'm old fashioned, but no. So you see, this is non-negotiable. Beyond just finding someone who is grounded (or at least is on that journey), I have a few other non-negotiable that more and more seem like these are going to be difficult to find. I know other may not agree with me on this one, but I refuse to have any form of alcohol in my house, ever, I don't think it's a good way to inspire your kids to not drink if you're throwing back a few at dinner. Paul states in 2 Corinthians 6:3  "We put no stumbling block in anyone’s path, so that our ministry will not be discredited." and in 1 Corinthians 8: 9 "Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak." and in Ephesians 1:4 "Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes" calling us to be holy. Well people ask me all the time why I don't drink and here you get the answer! I don't drink because God calls me to be holy and this is one way in which I have CHOSEN to "set apart" myself from the rest of society. I don't think anything good comes from alcohol (not even socially, by not drinking I've learn how to hang out with people and meet people sober, it is possible) ever. period. Sorry this is just my honest opinions. So therefore, I don't want to marry a guy who drinks and I don't want to marry someone who swears but who agrees to wait till marriage for sex because that is one "gift" that I can give only him one day. Plus, I have to be attracted to him. I know this just sounds like a list of impossible qualities to find in one person, BUT I KNOW that he exists because God has promised me in Psalms 37:4  "Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart." Therefore, I have faith and walk in this direction, not giving into society and all of it's downfalls. I hold on strong to what I believe and I wait, because through patience, I know one day, I'll meet him, and I can say, I waited for HIM, no one else. It always reminds me of a Rebecca St. James song that I use to listen to when I was like 10. So now you all know what is important to me when it comes to guys, yeah I want to be attracted to him, but I'm gonna be honest, the most attractive thing to me is when a guy is totally sold out to God. When I'm at a church service and I see a guy around all his other male friends and he raises his hands and could care less what they think, he automatically becomes 20x more handsome. Just saying. and know you all REALLY now What Liz Wants. ;)

Song Below 
Wait for me- Rebecca St. James

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. find out what it means to me.

I know we all "think" we are respectful individuals, but come on, you know that is NOT the case. For instance, when things aren't going your way, do you scuff and scowl or suck it up and act polite? I know a lot of people would call this "sucking up" but hey, sometimes it's better than to act like a brat and have people not respect you. Think about it. I know we all like to have our sarcasm and be our loud mouth self, Hey we are just being ourselves! However, if that "loud mouth" person is someone interrupting OUR quiet time or being obnoxious, well then it's just not cool. Remember, people are always around and ALWAYS watching you and your actions whether you think it's their business or not. There is a way to disagree politely, or when you believe you have been treated wrong, walk away, thank the person for their time and act like it was no big deal. They will either feel bad for being so rude, appreciate your ability to look past their rudeness (if they are having a bad day), or they won't care at all, but at least you were the bigger person. I get flax for being a suck up, but I don't have many people that outright hate me (that I know of) and I get a lot of what I want by just being nice and respecting people who require it. It really does take your further in life. So you can hold on to your attitude and possibly get what you want; or you can be nice and respectful and have people notice you. This isn't to say you have to AGREE but instead of doing the whole eye roll when someone is talking to you, you can say oh I see what you're saying, or state your opinion separately. I personally hate being around people who are out right rude all the time to everyone: servers, their boss, family members, friends: it is embarrassing because you just want to escape and pretend like you are not with them. Fortunately a lot of my friends know the difference and I understand venting or being annoyed at people, but being rude ALL the time is completely different. This is just a thought of mine, one of my favorite quotes is "Let us treat men and women well; treat them as if they were real. Perhaps they are." Ralph Waldo Emerson. Think about it. Eh, it's just what Liz wants.

warm weatherrrrrrr

This is an easy to understand post if you live anywhere where your winter is longer than every other season and never seems to end. However, this past week NYC received a gift from mother nature and the weather was almost 60 on Friday PLUS I had the day off! With this I went and explored Chinatown, ate in Little Italy and enjoyed a night out on the town all while soaking up that vitamin D I was missing in my life. Saturday, thinking that this awesome weather would continue, I went to Soho to walk around. At first the day started off fab because I returned $63 worth of things I didn't need and I was lookin fresh (Insert first story at the bottom of how I know this). However, It ended up being SUPER cold towards the end of the day and then I just got super cranky because I was hungry didn't know where my train was and really cold. I hate that the weather does this! You see for me,  I feel as though I haven't been really living up exploring NYC while I'm here. Everyone keeps saying of it sounds like you're having a blast or everything looks so cool, but in reality I feel like I'm slacking at truly experiencing NYC because I'm so cold all of the time! I mean as I write this I am in a Borders about 6 streets from me (streets are shorter than avenue walking) but I had to must up all of my will to walk here and do hw (which I'm obviously not doing now) to come here. I am just ready for the weather to get nice again so I can roam around in the warm weather. I know you don't need warm weather, just a good attitude, but I HATE being cold. I'm so tempted to move south and get away from this weather but then more than half of my wardrobe would be useless and I don't have the kind of money (obviously if I'm returning things) to buy a whole new wardrobe, although it would be fun. So I hope that, that groundhog was not lying and this warm weather is coming otherwise I am not only going to get extremely sick from this weather flip-flopping, but I'm gonna get cranky. This is a "duh" post for all of you who live in the Snow Belt or cold areas, I just think the rest of the world needs to try to understand our pain, literally, the pain of wind burn on my face. "Why no, I my skin tone is not red, it is just from the windburn outside that likes to turn me into a tomato"

1.) Story from above. So at the Gap I had to return a shirt that i realize I didn't actually like (part of that 63 back) and I realize in line that I had forgotten my real recipte, instead I brought the "use this online and get take our survey" recipte. I was like, ohhh i hope they still will take this because I don't want to walk back! Well I was wearing my red, buff and green headband, a green shirt my big leopard print coat, jeans and moccasins, but I changed up my make up and did a bright red lip with very simple eyes, for all you males,  you don't care I know. But anyways I get to the front of the line finally and the lady at the cash register was awesome. She was like "Oh yeah we can just look you up and return that, Oh and that guy in front of you isn't he so cute, he is just so handsome (there was some guy who returned stuff ahead of me but I wasn't really paying attention). Oh and he's single, and he lives in the area, but that's all I can tell you" (picture a short little lady saying this with great inflection). I was laughing because she kept going on about how cute he was and how single he was. Anyway I'm laughing and go to leave and a guy that works there as I'm leaving says that he loves my outfit and that I look just so trendy right now. Well I'm obviously loving this so I just leave in a good mood loving the Gap and it's employees for being so fun. I go onward and these ladies on the subway comment on my lipstick and how much they love my make up and everything. Then I get to soho and a lady outside of some store compliments my headband and I tell her I made it myself! I seriously loved exploring that day and that is all that made exploring and going out worth it because the weather stunk. It was so fun, so compliment people because you could make their day! Seriously! DO IT! hahah

So in conclusion, What Liz Wants is warm weather and compliments from strangers, it's so fun! haha