When I was in High School, I was a bit of a judger and I knew it. I didn't like judging people but I just thought everyone was so stupid and their trivial high school relationship problems bored me and were so childish I thought. There was always someone crying over some boy and people mad at each other. Truthfully, that was just too much energy for me.
However, I knew that judging these people was wrong and I really worked to "understand" as opposed to to critic them.
A big difference for me was to realize that not everyone comes from your background. Not everyone has lived the way you have. Some have been put down their whole life and therefore feel the need to seek attention somewhere else. Others were always praised within their family and treated like a god as a child, therefore they act spoiled or like royalty thinking everything should revolve around them because it actually has most of their life.
For me, this realization allowed me to stop looking at other people and expecting them to act and agree and believe the same things I do. I was raised in a loving family and although I didn't always get along with my siblings I knew they cared, deep, deep down sometimes. But again, even the three of us grew up differently, around different friends, as either the oldest, middle, or youngest which does have an effect.
The reason I bring this up is to have you examine your own life. How were you raised? Who were your friends? Where did you live? Realize that a lot of the people you are constantly judging have been in completely different situations than you and you can't expect someone to "behave like a lady" if that's not the example they've had or the friends they grew up around. I just caution you against judging people in a way that you push everyone out of your life. Being around judgmental people is exhausting and it's hard because you never feel like you can open up to them about anything.
However, on the flip side, this doesn't give people the right to behave however they want. People always say to me "Don't judge me" or I hear "Do you think Liz will mind" because I have guidelines I live my life by. I may not "agree" with what you are doing, but I ask, why do you care so much if I approve of what your doing? If it is something you think is right or want to do, my thoughts on it shouldn't matter to you. That is unless my presence calls to attention that whatever you are doing or about to do, you actually think may be wrong and your subconscious cares. Otherwise, you should own your decisions. I don't drink and I am sure I've been judged by people. I am waiting till marriage for sex, and I KNOW I've been judged for that. However, I am not embarrassed or ashamed to be judged for either of those decisions because I own them and I don't care.
Ask yourself why you care so much what others think of the decisions you are making. If it's something you don't want to be judged for, maybe it's that little voice in your head telling you, you shouldn't be doing it anyway.
I won't judge you because we've grown up completely different and I realize that, but why do you care so much what I, or anyone else, thinks? It's just what Liz wants to know?
PS FUNNY STORY INSERTED HERE:
Onto Friday's funny story that I never got around to posting.
The program I am in is gracious enough to buy us tickets for programs each month (actually we prepaid for them, but if your school has a swipe card, it's the same idea of it feels like your not paying, even though you totally already did).
Last month we got to go see Wicked and this month they got us tickets to a comedy show called Comedy Strip Live. Well our adviser sent the list of students that were attending and only 5 out of the 8 students were signed up (this is weird to me because they don't give you the money back and you basically already paid for it! Just go!). So one of the girls I was friends with I called and begged her to not back out and we agreed that we were gonna go and enjoy this. It's a good thing I called because we ended up getting a text that one of the other girls dropped out. Down to four people now, three girls and one guy who none of us really know.
So I call the one girl to see if she found a replacement for our extra ticket and she tells me that she thinks she's not going to go either now! So we have two extra tickets. Meanwhile me and Amanda are calling people like crazy trying to find someone to replace just one ticket, and now we have two.
We initially go around the floor and offer them to anyone, but it's a Friday night around 7:15, we are leaving in 15 minutes and everyone else already basically has plans. So I start venturing to the other floors. (5-11 are residential floors, I live on 6). I go up to the 7th floor and decide to just walk into every kitchen because that is less awkward than bathrooms and hopefully there are people cooking. I find a girl who is obviously doing hw and offer her the tickets but she says she doesn't think she would be available in time but appreciates the offer, aight next floor.
Next floor is a guys floor and I walk into the kitchen and see this couple making food. I offer them the tickets and he looks at her like, I wanna go but it's your decision. He asks "What do you think?" She very abruptly goes, "I don't think our food will be ready in time" Nothing else. So I leave.
Next floor up, no one.
Next floor, a sketchy character, no sketchy characters for us that night, no offer.
I think I make it all the way up to the 11th floor with no luck and instead of being healthy and just taking the stairs to the 6th I take the elevator, where a guy gets on and I very randomly, but fast (cuz I only have 3 floors!) ask him if him and a friend would want to go to a comedy club. I definitely caught him off guard but he baffled says he'd ask. So we go back up to his floor and he goes around asking 2 of his friends if they'd want to go. He was going to the gym and we are literally about to leave in like 15 mins.
He apologizes because none of his friends can go and I kindly tell him that if he finds someone to come let us know, I am in the devil room (or 666) and to find us.
So I sit in Amanda's room, calling people trying to figure out what to do and literally like 10 minutes later, the kid comes down and says his Spanish friend will go. hahaha So we found people to go with us, randomly as I gallivant around the de Hirsch center floors and elevator.
We ended up all having fun at the comedy club and his Spanish friend asked, so how do you guys all know each other, to which Amanda says, they just met on an elevator like 10 minutes ago. hahaha To funny. so here is to knew friends and to meeting them in odd places on a quest to not have tickets go to waste.
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Sunday, February 27, 2011
INteresting
Yes that is the term that describes last nights adventure and by adventure I mean a random night.
First off, the evening starting very low key for me with my friend Leah, some meringues, delivery food, and the movie Date Night. We were both tired and so we just chilled and watch movies and hung out. Always a good time. I left at like 11 and got back to my room around 11:40.
I popped my head into my neighbor Rachel's room b/c I knew her sis Maggie was visiting and I figured they were up to something. They were just laying in bed like bums on a Saturday night watching tv about to go to bed. So I sat and chatted for a bit just to say hey and see how their night was. Well, probably around 12 we decided to actually go out because it was a Saturday night, Maggie's friend wanted to see her and me and Rach just decided we were just gonna chill somewhere while Maggie said hey. (This was also a tactic because when she wanted to leave we were gonna call with some crisis so she could come save us from w/e our mental breakdown was going to be about where instead we were gonna save her... sneaky I know).
We have no idea where we are gonna go so Rachel and Maggie are txting ppl b/c Maggie's friend then decides me and Rach can probablly come but we don't know where they are or what stop to get off at or where to go, so we are destinationless, pretty much the theme of our night.
Getting dressed is obviously the most fun part of the night so we are borrowing each others clothes getting cute and just having fun looking through my tights (hehe) and trying on red lipsticks. I decide to bring my fur coat b/c this place we were going was supposedly hard to get in and why not go all out when you're going out.
We decided also that we were going to take on different personalities that night, and therefore I was Elizabeth Pearcy from England (obviously I went British) and Maggie was saying she could be Chinese, haha cuz she said she couldn't be anything else. So we were walking around talking in accents and being goofy, ppl were jealous of our sillyness.
We leave and walk to the metro and still don't know exactly where we are going.As we swipe in to the station Rach get's a txt that one of her friends is at a place called Molly's on 85th, we are currently at 96 and could have just walked there, but we were already swiped in, so we rode the subway one stop, very awesome, and walk into this place were probably about 20 ppl are. We are completely overdressed but they are playing awesome throwback songs. So we stay for like 10 mins while we decided our next move. However, as we try to leave the guy playing music is like "Why are you going, stay.. blah blah blah" and we said we look silly here (and I really just wanted to ppl watch and 20 ppl is not a good ppl watching spot) but he was like I play here every sat so come next time! He gave us his card and we exchanged numbers so he can let us know where and when he's playing again.
So now we are walking to the subway and I am remind you in a huge fur coat but busy staring at my phone and txting not paying attention. I guess two guys that were walking behind us were calling and asking for our autograph's but I seriously didn't hear anything. Funny however.
We get on the train and find out that we are getting off at Union Square to find this kid. We get off and realize he is at a place called Rosebud up on 21st and Lex, WE SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN OFF AT 23RD AND PARK! Stupid. So we are semi lost b/c there is no lexington around us (it doesn't technically exist till you get to 21st so we are wanding aimlessly trying to figure out where it is). We find it and this place and walk in finally (mind you I think it is like 1:30 at this point). We go in and there are ppl playng pool, candle's everywhere (hrm candle's and ppl who have been drinking NEVER made sense to me), a fireplace, and random groups everywhere. We sit down and meet Fiona, Kravasa (this is my best guess) and her friend Nick and another lady (who's a little out of it). We chill there and talk and make friends and then they decide to leave to go to some house party.
We are just following at this point and go to some house party but as we walk in and go up to the 8th floor (only 5 at a time on the elevator for our group of 6 tho?? Seriously??) We avoid the puke in the corner of the elevator and get up there. It's like crazy techno music and ppl are like swaying and it is an odd mix of ppl to say the lease. I can't tell what the mix is tho, it's all age ranges and it was like a blue lighting. We are not on the list (obviously because we just randomly got invited) and so they are asking us to pay $10, however, I am a cheepo and wanted food instead. So we are chilling around there and when the lady get's distracted by other ppl coming in we walk away and chill somewhere else, well she see's me (i'm in a leopard print coat and a headband, not really blending material) and says we need to pay. Kavasa get's her to let the three of us grl in for $20 instead of $30, but I still didn't want to pay to hang out at 3am at this point with ppl I didn't really know, at all. So we decide to leave.
As we come to the bottom of the stairs there are like 4/5 guys who are now going up. We walk out and literally one comes out like 4 seconds later asking us if we really are leaving and we said yes because we don't want to pay. Well he supposedly knows Roland (???? cuz that helps???) and he was going to try and get us to get back in. Well kavasa had already tried and we left, that lady was gonna givve us a stare down I just knew it. So I was asking this guy how he was going to get us in and being kind of confusing (probably like this blog) and he said it was too much thinking for him and we related our conversation to a test and he had to logically give us an explanation of how he was going to get us into this place fo free. It wasn't happening so instead we just said our goodbyes to this guy we didn't know and he gave us direction to a place to eat instead.
At this point, we are laughing just by the evening and how random it had been and Maggie goes, ya all we need is to be followed by a crack addict now... SerIOUSLY!). I thankfully have had my MACE in my hand all night as we walked and said if that happened I had us covered. So we turn the corner and who is there but two guys calling to us and they start walking behind us and yelling very inappropriate things to ladies. So we walk fast and leave and laugh because now we were followed.
As we get to Union Square we see an accident had happened and there are like a bunch of police cars and ambulance and firetrucks and we are like this would be happening! So we just go to our train.
Rachel Decides to sit down on the steps and I said I wouldn't b/c knowing me I was going to sit in gum and the guy behind her on the steps is like "what's wrong with sitting down" (in an accent) we find out he is from Ireland (after we guess from 2xs). We have a nice conversation with him about our evenings and about how he doesn't drink coffee only tea or I think it was Irish coffee? I don't remember, but it was just random.
Our Sub comes and we get on and add Irish man to the list of Character's for the night. then we realize the two guys across from us have like a million keys on a huge lock. They are going through them and we just amazed that he has been carrying that around with him all night b/c it looks to be about 20 lbs. He sees us staring or maybe one of us said something about the amount of keys and now we are getting an explanation of all the keys and why he has them (keys to his old apartment which he tried to give back, keys to a storage unit he went to, also where the lock from from, keys for locking his computer, keys for his aparment, and probably something else). Well we start talking about what he does and the evening and he ended up seeing that crash and had taken pictures! He showed us them and it was a cab that crashed into a light pole which fell down, seriously wicked scary. So now we are making friends with the guys across from us and as we leave they jokingly ask us for our autographs on their phones b/c we had started to explain our night, but we leave.
As we leave we notice two creepy guys who had been being creepy on the sub too. We wait for them to leave and walk out of the metro and I grab my mace again. We leave and they are walking in front of us, so we walk quietly and behind them until they walked in their building and then we make it back to our room and crash for the evening.
Yes so this all happened between a night of just chillen and then randomly deciding to go out at midnight. We got back around 4am (Sorry mom don't be mad!! There were a ton of people I was safe cuz police men where everywhere and I had my Mace!) and then we went to bed.
So yes. NYC, the City that never sleeps.
Another funny story from Friday night coming later. To tired to write about it right now!! (PS Rachel and Maggie, let me know if I forgot anything!!!)
First off, the evening starting very low key for me with my friend Leah, some meringues, delivery food, and the movie Date Night. We were both tired and so we just chilled and watch movies and hung out. Always a good time. I left at like 11 and got back to my room around 11:40.
I popped my head into my neighbor Rachel's room b/c I knew her sis Maggie was visiting and I figured they were up to something. They were just laying in bed like bums on a Saturday night watching tv about to go to bed. So I sat and chatted for a bit just to say hey and see how their night was. Well, probably around 12 we decided to actually go out because it was a Saturday night, Maggie's friend wanted to see her and me and Rach just decided we were just gonna chill somewhere while Maggie said hey. (This was also a tactic because when she wanted to leave we were gonna call with some crisis so she could come save us from w/e our mental breakdown was going to be about where instead we were gonna save her... sneaky I know).
We have no idea where we are gonna go so Rachel and Maggie are txting ppl b/c Maggie's friend then decides me and Rach can probablly come but we don't know where they are or what stop to get off at or where to go, so we are destinationless, pretty much the theme of our night.
Getting dressed is obviously the most fun part of the night so we are borrowing each others clothes getting cute and just having fun looking through my tights (hehe) and trying on red lipsticks. I decide to bring my fur coat b/c this place we were going was supposedly hard to get in and why not go all out when you're going out.
We decided also that we were going to take on different personalities that night, and therefore I was Elizabeth Pearcy from England (obviously I went British) and Maggie was saying she could be Chinese, haha cuz she said she couldn't be anything else. So we were walking around talking in accents and being goofy, ppl were jealous of our sillyness.
We leave and walk to the metro and still don't know exactly where we are going.As we swipe in to the station Rach get's a txt that one of her friends is at a place called Molly's on 85th, we are currently at 96 and could have just walked there, but we were already swiped in, so we rode the subway one stop, very awesome, and walk into this place were probably about 20 ppl are. We are completely overdressed but they are playing awesome throwback songs. So we stay for like 10 mins while we decided our next move. However, as we try to leave the guy playing music is like "Why are you going, stay.. blah blah blah" and we said we look silly here (and I really just wanted to ppl watch and 20 ppl is not a good ppl watching spot) but he was like I play here every sat so come next time! He gave us his card and we exchanged numbers so he can let us know where and when he's playing again.
So now we are walking to the subway and I am remind you in a huge fur coat but busy staring at my phone and txting not paying attention. I guess two guys that were walking behind us were calling and asking for our autograph's but I seriously didn't hear anything. Funny however.
We get on the train and find out that we are getting off at Union Square to find this kid. We get off and realize he is at a place called Rosebud up on 21st and Lex, WE SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN OFF AT 23RD AND PARK! Stupid. So we are semi lost b/c there is no lexington around us (it doesn't technically exist till you get to 21st so we are wanding aimlessly trying to figure out where it is). We find it and this place and walk in finally (mind you I think it is like 1:30 at this point). We go in and there are ppl playng pool, candle's everywhere (hrm candle's and ppl who have been drinking NEVER made sense to me), a fireplace, and random groups everywhere. We sit down and meet Fiona, Kravasa (this is my best guess) and her friend Nick and another lady (who's a little out of it). We chill there and talk and make friends and then they decide to leave to go to some house party.
We are just following at this point and go to some house party but as we walk in and go up to the 8th floor (only 5 at a time on the elevator for our group of 6 tho?? Seriously??) We avoid the puke in the corner of the elevator and get up there. It's like crazy techno music and ppl are like swaying and it is an odd mix of ppl to say the lease. I can't tell what the mix is tho, it's all age ranges and it was like a blue lighting. We are not on the list (obviously because we just randomly got invited) and so they are asking us to pay $10, however, I am a cheepo and wanted food instead. So we are chilling around there and when the lady get's distracted by other ppl coming in we walk away and chill somewhere else, well she see's me (i'm in a leopard print coat and a headband, not really blending material) and says we need to pay. Kavasa get's her to let the three of us grl in for $20 instead of $30, but I still didn't want to pay to hang out at 3am at this point with ppl I didn't really know, at all. So we decide to leave.
As we come to the bottom of the stairs there are like 4/5 guys who are now going up. We walk out and literally one comes out like 4 seconds later asking us if we really are leaving and we said yes because we don't want to pay. Well he supposedly knows Roland (???? cuz that helps???) and he was going to try and get us to get back in. Well kavasa had already tried and we left, that lady was gonna givve us a stare down I just knew it. So I was asking this guy how he was going to get us in and being kind of confusing (probably like this blog) and he said it was too much thinking for him and we related our conversation to a test and he had to logically give us an explanation of how he was going to get us into this place fo free. It wasn't happening so instead we just said our goodbyes to this guy we didn't know and he gave us direction to a place to eat instead.
At this point, we are laughing just by the evening and how random it had been and Maggie goes, ya all we need is to be followed by a crack addict now... SerIOUSLY!). I thankfully have had my MACE in my hand all night as we walked and said if that happened I had us covered. So we turn the corner and who is there but two guys calling to us and they start walking behind us and yelling very inappropriate things to ladies. So we walk fast and leave and laugh because now we were followed.
As we get to Union Square we see an accident had happened and there are like a bunch of police cars and ambulance and firetrucks and we are like this would be happening! So we just go to our train.
Rachel Decides to sit down on the steps and I said I wouldn't b/c knowing me I was going to sit in gum and the guy behind her on the steps is like "what's wrong with sitting down" (in an accent) we find out he is from Ireland (after we guess from 2xs). We have a nice conversation with him about our evenings and about how he doesn't drink coffee only tea or I think it was Irish coffee? I don't remember, but it was just random.
Our Sub comes and we get on and add Irish man to the list of Character's for the night. then we realize the two guys across from us have like a million keys on a huge lock. They are going through them and we just amazed that he has been carrying that around with him all night b/c it looks to be about 20 lbs. He sees us staring or maybe one of us said something about the amount of keys and now we are getting an explanation of all the keys and why he has them (keys to his old apartment which he tried to give back, keys to a storage unit he went to, also where the lock from from, keys for locking his computer, keys for his aparment, and probably something else). Well we start talking about what he does and the evening and he ended up seeing that crash and had taken pictures! He showed us them and it was a cab that crashed into a light pole which fell down, seriously wicked scary. So now we are making friends with the guys across from us and as we leave they jokingly ask us for our autographs on their phones b/c we had started to explain our night, but we leave.
As we leave we notice two creepy guys who had been being creepy on the sub too. We wait for them to leave and walk out of the metro and I grab my mace again. We leave and they are walking in front of us, so we walk quietly and behind them until they walked in their building and then we make it back to our room and crash for the evening.
Yes so this all happened between a night of just chillen and then randomly deciding to go out at midnight. We got back around 4am (Sorry mom don't be mad!! There were a ton of people I was safe cuz police men where everywhere and I had my Mace!) and then we went to bed.
So yes. NYC, the City that never sleeps.
Another funny story from Friday night coming later. To tired to write about it right now!! (PS Rachel and Maggie, let me know if I forgot anything!!!)
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