I was also in a sorority whose "house" was actually a dorm floor with a "chapter room" (also known as our living room) down the hall. Most of the girls loved studying in the chapter room with everyone else, watching some show or funny youtube videos. I was not one of those girls. And not because I didn't love spending time with them, but because I could never concentrate. I could barely fall asleep if someone was talking outside my room or my roommate's phone was clicking as she texted late at night while we lay in our beds.
I knew my studying time would increase, while my productivity would decrease and yes those friendship and those times are times when memories are built but as a daily routine to study, that was NOT going to fly.
This distraction reminds me a lot of relationships. As of late, I have had numerous people try to set me up with this person or that person and while most every one of them was extremely kind and nice, I just wasn't interested or realized it just wasn't a good situation because the person didn't actually love God like me. That leads people to ask me ALL THE TIME if I'm happy.
The answer is YES.
I am very happy with my life and for some reason people do not believe me. But let me explain.
Let me take you to 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 ... Paul writes...
32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
It's just like studying to me. It's not that hanging out with my friends and studying is wrong, it's that I wouldn't be as focuses on my work which was important to me.
With God, it's not that a significant other is wrong, it's that I would now be splitting my time and thoughts between HIM and him.
I read these verses and know without a doubt that this time period of my life is for a purpose. Don't misunderstand me, it's not that one day, in the future when it is God's timing, I won't want to get married, it's that I am in an amazing position to serve God fully right now.
And that is exactly what God has been preparing for me. God has placed a dream in my heart and career aspirations. He has been opening doors left and right for my future and although another transition period is in front of me, I'm excited because I am in a place where, come February I can do whatever and go where ever God calls me.
Until God places a Christian man, whom I am attracted to and who fully and completely loves HIM in my path I will not be looking because it frees up time for me to devote myself to my first love, Jesus Christ.
So stop asking me if I am happy because nothing makes me more happy than to fully serve God and to have an excited about the future he has planned for me. If I can do his will and serve him first, everything else is a bonus.
I mean look at that precious face, I clearly love life!!! :D
